If it seemed surprising to you that we announced an adoption when we hadn't previously talked about it, you're not alone. It was surprising to us too! We actually kept it to ourselves for about a month before telling anyone. I'll be publishing the whole story here shortly. But for now, today's post....
Why Did We Wait?
The first time we adopted, we came to the decision of adopting and had no
idea who our child would be. We were in the process for about 6 months before
we ever saw Lily's face. This time, things happened a little backwards. First
we saw our son's face. We were not in the process, had not paid any fees, were
not really even thinking about adopting again at the time. And because of the
way things happened, we felt that we were saying yes to this child. By saying
yes we were committing to an adoption, but one that led to this child. We felt
that if we were not able to match with him, we probably would not actively
search for another waiting child at this point and then an adoption would not
occur. Which is why we waited to tell. It's similar to waiting for the end of
the first trimester before announcing that you're pregnant. We didn't want to
announce an adoption that may end up not being one. Of course, if God led us to
another child in the same way He led us to this one, things would have changed.
But it was so clear to us that we were saying yes to David that we decided to
wait until we submitted the appropriate paperwork and were given pre-approval
from China that would officially match us before telling family and friends.
And to be honest, it was kind of fun to have a little secret that only the two
of us knew about for a while!