Monday, April 6, 2015

Why Did We Wait?

If it seemed surprising to you that we announced an adoption when we hadn't previously talked about it, you're not alone. It was surprising to us too! We actually kept it to ourselves for about a month before telling anyone. I'll be publishing the whole story here shortly. But for now, today's post....

Why Did We Wait?


The first time we adopted, we came to the decision of adopting and had no idea who our child would be. We were in the process for about 6 months before we ever saw Lily's face. This time, things happened a little backwards. First we saw our son's face. We were not in the process, had not paid any fees, were not really even thinking about adopting again at the time. And because of the way things happened, we felt that we were saying yes to this child. By saying yes we were committing to an adoption, but one that led to this child. We felt that if we were not able to match with him, we probably would not actively search for another waiting child at this point and then an adoption would not occur. Which is why we waited to tell. It's similar to waiting for the end of the first trimester before announcing that you're pregnant. We didn't want to announce an adoption that may end up not being one. Of course, if God led us to another child in the same way He led us to this one, things would have changed. But it was so clear to us that we were saying yes to David that we decided to wait until we submitted the appropriate paperwork and were given pre-approval from China that would officially match us before telling family and friends. And to be honest, it was kind of fun to have a little secret that only the two of us knew about for a while!

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